I get questions all the time: how’s the adoption process, er, foster care thing going? Are you guys still doing that?
Sometimes it’s easier just to do a little post of where we’re at, so here we are. :)
We made the switch to the foster care program (foster to adopt, specifically) from the international adoption program back in February of this past year (you can read all about that decision here).
So it’s for sure been a minute.
Jason and I thought we were all squared away back in February — we thought we had all the physicals, paperwork and, yep, more paperwork done for us to be licensed as a foster family.
What we discovered was that there was actually a lot more paperwork that we weren’t expecting and that we had quite a ways to go. All 5 of us had to get new physicals done.
If you’ve ever tried to schedule physicals for 5 family members, you know how insane this is.
By the time all of our physicals were done it was literally the end of August.
Around the start of the summer, we also started realizing that our cutest little Rottweiler puppy, Duke, was almost coming out of a chill-but-still-puppy phase, to full-on-puppy mode. And while he’s such a great dog, awesome with the kids and everything inbetween, we currently have an 100 Ib. puppy who thinks he weighs 10 Ibs. on our hands.
All that to say, our little Dukinator needs to calm down a bit before we can introduce a baby or toddler girl into the mix.
Apparently, Rotties really start to settle down more around their first birthday, which is mid-December for Duke. This is all important for us as the State really scrutinizes everything you do as a foster family, and we want to make this the easiest transition for whatever little girl will be joining our family.
We are still looking forward to fostering a little girl, and someday adopting a girl who comes into our home.
Our worker shared with us that typically in Colorado as of late, young children are staying in their foster home for about 6 months to a year before they are either placed back with the biological parent(s) after court requirements are met, or, that the adoption process can begin for the child in foster care.
This adoption process can take upwards of a year before a child is legally ours from first word of heading in the adoption direction to termination of parental rights and official adoption.
What this means for our family is we could foster one little girl and adopt her (not statistically likely, but possible) or foster three little girls before one of them becomes a Loewen.
With starting to home school the three kiddos this year, I think the timing will actually work out wonderfully that we’ll evaluate where Duke’s puppy tendencies are the first of the year, have a semester of this new schooling method under our belt and wait and watch for God to let us know if it’s our time.
(PS – if you want to follow more of our everyday life where I update daily, you can follow along on Instagram – @lifeasaloewen)
This whole journey has been such an emotional roller coaster. If I can just keep it real for a quick sec, I literally have broken down sobbing that I “don’t think I can do it”, that I “don’t know that I have it in me” and have come this close to throwing in the towel on the whole thing.
Yes, three kids, home schooling, running a business is a lot. #noreallyright
However, Jason has reminded me and I know that it’s true: God put adoption on our hearts some 8 years ago and He’s been faithful and led us this far. He’s not going to suddenly stop providing or not give us wisdom.
So we’re watching, waiting, praying. We’re trying to be logical, observant and responsible.
If you’re wondering how you can help and continue to be a part of this journey, we will take all your prayers for wisdom and right timing.
Although foster care doesn’t have fees with it like adoption does, we’ll still have to buy necessities for our girl like a bed, car seat, clothes, toys, diapers, etc. When the time comes, we will be over the moon to take in whatever anyone would like to lend us or give to us. Since we’ll likely only know in a moments notice (quite literally — our worker said they usually call the foster parents and say: “Hey, we have a girl that matches your profile and wants. We can be there in 20 minutes.”) All that to say, I will for sure keep you all posted with the details! Be watching for the first of the year for more updates and how we’re moving forward.
Many of you have been on this journey with us since we first put in that initial adoption application back in 2010. We so appreciate your love, prayers and encouragement. Thanks for going with us, friends!